Here I am as a confident little 4-year old somewhere around 1988. This was likely before anyone ever said anything to hurt my feelings or if they did, I was still blissfully unaware. Before the first time somebody called me Thunder Thighs or made fun of me for the lisp I used to have. Those comments we hear as young children that end up shaping our belief systems of ourselves. Those things that steal our innocence. But here I was, just me, hamming it up on the beach without a care in the world.
Little did I know that in the years to come that confidence and self-esteem would be something that I would struggle with greatly. It would make me slow to decide things because I never really trusted my own judgement. I would pick people to have in my life who needed “my help” because that was less risky for me and my ego. Backing down in disagreements because I wanted to appease another person. Not wanting to ruffle any feathers for fear of what others would think. Saying no to things that I actually really wanted. Constantly unsure and constantly comparing myself to others.
And finally, giving up too soon because the fear of failure was so unbearable .
Does any of this sound familiar to you???
The story doesn’t end here. I don’t live my life in such a way anymore. It was a long, hard road of fighting my way to figuring out who I am, what I stand for and what I won’t accept in my life. Now I help those who struggle with these very things. It IS possible to not feel this way.
Stay tuned for next week when I talk about Confidence Hijackers. The real and imagined things and people that tell us we “can’t”.
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I am silver lining finder. Throw me in any situation and I’ll not only find something good but I’ll also find the opportunity. That’s exactly what brought me to my coaching career. 
