Why you don’t have what you want…

Maybe I will offend you with this and if I do, it’s probably because there is some truth to it. I’m willing to take that risk. There are a lot of things that piss me off, but today I will focus on one.

People who play small, people who don’t do the work it takes to get what they want in life and then blame it on something/someone else.

I believe things are possible for you. Whatever you want really. Sometimes there are legit circumstances that can hinder us, but most of us are in the business of creating limitations for ourselves. I just read in a book about a guy named Kyle Maynard who was born with no arms and legs and he climbed Mt.Kilamanjaro. Crazy, right ?! That tells me something. It tells me that most of the time our “circumstances”, are self-imposed.

There are people less qualified than you, doing the things you want to do and getting what you want, simply because they decide to believe in themselves. Period.

3 steps to changing this:

1) Boldy claim what you want and why: For example, when I started this business, I did it because I wanted FREEDOM and IMPACT. I honestly hate working for other people and pouring my energy into someone else’s dream. Also, making an impact is so important to me and I felt I couldn’t effectively do it working for someone else and being boxed in by their rules. Anytime this gets hard, I remember why I’m doing this. This business is a full expression of my personal values. Though it is not always easy, there is nothing else I would rather be doing. What would you be doing if you were FULLY EXPRESSING yourself in every area of your life? How would that change things?

2) What do you need to let go of to make it happen? Maybe it’s a limiting belief, maybe it’s a person. I don’t know, that is your call. But what I do know is that your life is a sum of all the daily choices you make. The things you say to yourself and the people you spend your time with is 100% your responsibility. What limiting belief do you have that is stopping you from getting what you want? What person in your life are you hanging on to that is actually holding you back? Do something about it!

3) Stop self-sabotaging: This is a BIG one. We say we want something and when we get close to it, we completely and totally sabotage ourselves. One time in college I claimed I wanted a nice boyfriend. And I got one, I got a really nice guy who ADORED me. And then we went to a party together and I made out with someone else. At the very core of it, I thought he was too good for me and I was scared that he was going to reject me at some point, so I created a scenario where I could do it first. Where have you done this in your life?

This is the type of work that I do with clients over time. Most people come to me because they know something is missing from their lives. Success in their business, boundaries with people, love, freedom, adventure, etc. Sometimes they know exactly what it is and sometimes it takes us some time to figure it out. But one thing all my clients have in common is this: they are not fulfilled in someway and they want more.

I’m slightly scaling back on working with 1-on-1 clients moving forward and am looking to fill 4 more spots. If you were looking for a sign to do something about that thing you are thinking about, here it is. Hit reply and let’s set up a time to talk to see if it’s a good fit 🙂

Yours in truth and tenacity,

Jessica Hetherington