Walk into the FIRE

I told you in my last post that I was going to tell you my number one tip for confidence…. Are you READY ?!  Here we go….

Feel the Fear and do it anyway.

Ohhh, did you think I was going to tell you something that you didn’t already know? Nope, not this time. This is your reminder that you, yes, YOU have the power to be scared of something and do it anyway.Walk into the FIRE OF LIFE.

Turns out that confidence is actually around 25-50% genetic . The same genes that can predispose you to anxiety can also predispose you to having more serotonin, oxytocin and dopamine available which are all associated with confidence. ( Check out the Confidence Code by Claire Shipman for more on that)  Some of us get lucky with that and some of us don’t. For those of us who don’t, the good news is that confidence is a muscle you can build just like your bicep. The more you flex it, the stronger it becomes.

Last week I co-lead a 4 hour long workshop of 30 lady entreprenuers in Orlando. I spoke about confidence, what it means to have it and what happens when you don’t and the impact it has on your life. It was the first time I had ever done anything like this and I was SO nervous! Here I was publicly speaking about confidence and looking in the mirror questioning my own !

What if they don’t like me? What if I mess up? Do I look good enough up there? Who are you to position yourself as an expert on confidence?

The saboteurs were out in FULL SWING.

But guess what? I did it anyway.

I made a pact with myself long ago that when I feel fear, that I would march towards it. That I would leave no stone unturned in my life. This has taken YEARS of practice and is still something I will always have to think about.

So that’s it. This is the secret…

Feel the fear and do it anyway

Confidence is a muscle that you can develop. Confidence is about taking action. The more action we take, the more we put ourselves out there and do something that terrifies us, the more confidence we build. And THAT is what life is all about . This is where the magic happens.

What are you putting off today because you are scared ? What are you going to do about it?

I’d love to hear your thoughts ! Shoot me a line   Hello@JessicaHetherington.com